“You don’t owe people the person you used to be. You don’t have to talk to people who are speaking to the old you. If they want to drag old you out, and you’ve already left that person behind, they don’t get to talk to you. When you’ve gone from weakness to strength, you don’t owe a show of your former self to someone who just can’t wrap their head around your change.”—Dig Yourself (via howitzerliterarysociety)
"this reminds me of-(insert topic that has nothing to do with the art, usually of the commenter’s own characters or story, a movie you probably don’t care for or have never seen, or a fandom based thing you don’t affiliate yourself with and definitely won’t now)"
This comment used to bother me quite a bit. Whenever I read it, accusations of plagiarism began to sprout in my head. Especially if I had never seen what my work was being compared with. Because I felt if I defended myself, then people would wonder why that had touched a nerve with me. And because I felt like it diminished my work, if it was so easily compared to something that already existed.
But then another artist told me their perspective on the comment “This reminds me of….”
They said the same thing as me, that it used to bother them. But then they started to realize that most of the time, it wasn’t being said as an insult. Most of the time people were comparing their work with something else those people already enjoyed. And they began to take it as a compliment because being compared with something else that is great, means your work must also have some greatness. So whenever someone looked at their work and said “This reminds me of…”, the artist would respond with “Thank you!” or “I’m glad you liked this as well!”
Since then I have tried to view it the same way. And I have found that the majority of the time, people really were saying “I like this other thing, and your work reminds me of it!”
The comment really doesn’t stress me out anymore at all. :) Even if it’s someone intentionally trying to start a fight, I feel they never get the reaction they were hoping for from me.